Why we’re teaching kids to idolize heroes they can never be, instead of self-made villains who hustled to the top, flaws and all.
Most Superheroes Are Born Lucky
When we think of superheroes, we often imagine immense power, courage, and a sense of duty to protect the world. But here’s a fact we often overlook: almost every big-name superhero got their power from sheer luck. It was handed to them, literally on a silver platter. Either they were born with it, came from wealthy families, or were just chosen by fate. And that’s not a lesson most kids can relate to, is it?
Consider these famous superheroes and how they “earned” their powers:
- Superman – Born on Krypton with superhuman abilities on Earth.
- Batman – Inherited billions and resources from his parents.
- Harry Potter – The chosen one, pre-loaded with powers and gifts
- Wonder Woman – A demigoddess by birth, daughter of Zeus.
- Iron Man – Tony Stark is a billionaire genius, thanks to family wealth.
- Spider-Man – Bitten by a radioactive spider; pure chance.
- Aquaman – Born to an Atlantean queen; royalty by birth.
- Thor – A literal god with powers granted by his father, Odin.
- Black Panther – Inherits power and wealth as the king of Wakanda.
- Captain America – Granted powers through government experimentation.
- Hulk – Accidentally exposed to gamma radiation.
- Green Lantern – Chosen by a ring; a role based on luck, not effort.
- Flash – Gained powers by accident due to a lab explosion.
- Wolverine – Born with mutant powers, modified by Weapon X.
- Professor X – Born with telepathic abilities, comes from a wealthy family.
- Ant-Man – Granted powers by technology created by Dr. Hank Pym.
- Shazam – Granted powers by an ancient wizard.
- Captain Marvel – Powers came from an accident involving a Tesseract.
These characters, while inspirational in some ways, send a flawed message: greatness is inherited or given by luck. Most kids will never get “lucky” in that way. So, are we setting them up for a dream they can’t reach?
Villains Are The Self-Made Anti-Heroes
When we shift our gaze to villains, an interesting pattern emerges. A lot of them were self-made. They started with nothing, clawed their way up, hustled hard. They weren’t chosen by fate or blessed by gods—they worked, schemed, and even broke rules to get to the top. And let’s be real, some of the most successful people we admire today did the same.
Look at these villains and their rise to power:
- Syndrome (The Incredibles) – Built his own technology after being rejected.
- The Joker (Batman) – Created his own reputation from the streets of Gotham.
- Penguin (Batman) – Self-made mob boss who started from humble beginnings.
- Lex Luthor – Self-made billionaire and genius.
- Ravana (Ramayana) – Skilled and self-made ruler with unmatched strength and intelligence.
- Thanos – Worked to amass power and influence across galaxies.
- Maleficent – Worked her way up in a hostile world.
- Green Goblin – Gained power through his own scientific experiments.
- Scar (Lion King) – Manipulated his way to seize power.
- Doctor Octopus – Became a formidable villain by choice and intelligence.
- Two-Face (Harvey Dent) – Rose to power through his own wit and strategy.
- Bane – Built his power through sheer physical training and mental discipline.
- Voldemort – Rose to power by mastering dark magic through years of study.
They had grit, they worked for it—even if their methods weren’t exactly squeaky clean. And why shouldn’t we acknowledge that? In the real world, hard work, ambition, and maybe a bit of bending the rules here and there are closer to how many people achieve success.
Why Society Idolizes Heroes Anyway
If you think about it, it’s strange how society clings to superheroes as role models when none of them had to earn their power or wealth. We’ve created a culture where kids think superpowers or divine gifts are what it takes to be “special.” But when you come from an average background, with no billions, no royal bloodline, and no gamma rays lying around, how exactly is that useful?
Kids are taught to idolize these heroes, but the chances they’ll get hit by a magic lightning bolt are slim to none. Instead, maybe it’s time to rethink who we’re putting on a pedestal.
No One Wants to Talk About Grit
A big part of the problem is that society avoids the reality of hard work. Success isn’t about waiting for some miraculous event; it’s about showing up day after day, putting in the hours. There aren’t many heroes who are famous for earning their status the hard way. Conan the Barbarian, Dr Strange might be one of the few exceptions where a character who fought and trained their way up with little else. But they are rare and not very popular.
Heroes like Batman might train and try to get better, but let’s be honest: his training was only possible because he inherited a fortune and technology. What is the message to kids? Be born into wealth and power, and you’ll have it easy.
We Despise Self-Made Villains for Their Success
Funny thing is we see real-life entrepreneurs who’ve worked hard, hustled, and achieved massive success, and they’re often branded as “villains.” People like Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, and Mark Zuckerberg have become symbols of ambition, wealth, and sometimes ruthlessness. They’ve gone against the grain, broken norms, and they’re criticized for it. Kids see them and think, “I want to be like that,” but society tells them that these people are “evil.”
The irony? Most of these self-made billionaires have qualities closer to comic-book villains than superheroes. They weren’t handed their power; they took it. And yet, they’re often labeled as cold, calculating, and out of touch with regular people.
What Can We Learn From Villains?
What if we taught kids to admire the hard-working spirit of villains, without idolizing the unethical parts? Villains show us resilience, ambition, and resourcefulness. They teach us that success doesn’t come easy, and if you want to get somewhere, you might need to work harder than everyone else. Villains may not be perfect, but they’re often more real than the flawless, chosen superheroes.
Dr. Alice Rison, a psychologist, mentions in an interview, “Many kids identify with villains because they represent something real—struggle, overcoming odds, and ambition.” Real-life data backs it up too. According to a recent poll by Pew Research, over 60% of young adults find figures like Musk and Zuckerberg more relatable than fantasy heroes because they’ve worked their way up, which feels more achievable to them.
Should Villains Be Our New Role Models?
The question isn’t as simple as choosing villains over heroes. It’s about recognizing the qualities in villains that matter—grit, persistence, and self-made success. Instead of worshipping unearned gifts, why not teach kids to look up to those who’ve achieved their goals through hard work?
By flipping the narrative, we may empower kids to believe in themselves rather than wait for a miracle. And maybe, just maybe, they’ll learn that while you don’t need to be ruthless, you do need to be relentless.
Abhishek Sareen is a marketing professional with over 16 years of experience. He has extensive experience in international business and currently an independent consultant for steel tube, consumer goods and retail industry.
He is a passionate cyclist and participated in several endurance competitive events like MTB Himalaya. His interests are in behavioral psychology, economics and chess. He is a graduate in Computer Science and an MBA in Marketing. He completed his executive education from IIM-A in 2016 focusing on business strategy.